One thing is for sure when he says he doesn’t want a relationship, something is wrong, he’s not feeling it for some reason. You probably have a million questions for him. You want to know why. Is there someone else? Does he want to date other women? Is it something you did? Can you fix it? Why won’t he try and work it out?
The fact of the matter is you can’t convince a guy to be in a relationship with you when he says he doesn’t want a relationship. He has to feel it and words won’t make him feel it for you. Maybe he just got scared, who knows, but when a guy says he doesn’t want a relationship with you, for the moment, you have to believe him. The more you question, convince, bargain, the further away you will push him.
It’s a good chance that he felt smothered, or he felt you were getting too serious too fast. One thing that triggers this is when the woman begins to give, when he hasn’t even asked her to. When a woman does this, the man knows she is expecting a commitment, probably sooner rather than later. He knows she is beginning to invest, sometimes this happens before he feels the same. This is acting as girlfriend, when he hasn’t claimed you as one.
Men like a challenge. If he was coming on strong and you just fell right into the role of couple hood, his challenge may have ended too soon and he became bored. At first he was feeling it, but when you start clinging or doing too much, he begins to feel it’s not so much fun anymore.
The last man to tell me he didn’t want a relationship with me I believed him. How you react to this can determine if he will or will not come back around. If you hold on tighter, he is not going to ever be yours. When I was told that, I was prepared. I felt the distance before hand. I replied in agreement, not what he expected. He expected drama.
When he says he doesn’t want a relationship, agree with him. Tell him that you understand, he can’t help what he does or doesn’t feel. Yes, you are disappointed, but you deserve a man who does know what he wants and a man who is able to be in a relationship with you. Thank him for his honesty and letting you go to find what you deserve, then shut him down. Go no contact.
This will get his attention. He is used to women trying to fix it, not a woman who is taking care of her own heart. His respect for you will shot through the roof. I know this is hard, but it’s the only way to get his attention, do the unpredictable. Let him walk away, and you do the same with feminine grace. If he comes back around, great, if he doesn’t, know that you will be fine. This knowing about yourself gives you power.
What happens during this no contact stage is he starts wondering what you are doing. Did he not mean that much to you? His imagination becomes your best weapon if you want him back. The mystery is back, you are once again a challenge. The last man that told me this and I agreed and gracefully walked away stayed gone for over a month. He did come back. I didn’t keep him, but that’s not the point is it?
When a man tells you he isn’t ready for a relationship or he doesn’t want a relationship,what he really usually means is he doesn’t want a relationship with you or just isn’t sure. Don’t’ push it, respect his wishes. Pushing to get what you want if you really think about it is quite selfish. It shows him you may not really respect him as a man.